Monday, April 16, 2012

Wanted: Happiness!



This post is not about a review of the movie, "The pursuit of Happyness." And this is also not about a soda commercial, though I may say both have the same root... happiness!   


Ano nga ba para sayo ang "Happiness?" Depende yan sa tao. Iba-iba kasi ang level ng kaligayahan ng bawat isa. Some people are happier with simple things in life. Yong iba ay hindi. Sana may panukat ng level ng kaligayahan no? Para alam mo kung napapasaya mo ba sya ng sapat o kulang pa. 


When I open my yahoo mail this morning, I received an email from someone I don't know. It's not a spam actually. It's a random message from yahoogroup. And I want to share it with everyone na mapapadaan dito sa UNPLOG at mabasa ang entry na to. Sana maging masaya tayong lahat!  
 
14 WAYS TO BE HAPPY

1. Accept the pains. - You must get in touch with your situation. Sometimes people deny their hardship, thinking that if they don't face them, they will be happier. But it's the other way around. Allow yourself to go through the pains.

2. Choose not to stay in pain. - They say this is self-empowerment. You can be bitter about the pain, and feel very powerless. Or you can do something and feel powerful enough to handle them. It's a choice to live with or without pain.

3. Forgive yourself, other people. - But before forgiveness comes in, think about how other people hurt. Then realize that you can see yourself for what you actually are and not how they want you to be. So finding happiness is no longer rooted outside, but it's inside you what you see, how you view things, what you want. Then it leads to your choice; to live your life with yourself.

4. Take responsibility for your life. - We sometimes allow ourselves to let other people, circumstances, or pains to rule our lives. So we become very unhappy and very bitter because we live blaming others on who we are, where we are at, or how we should be. Its an exhausting process because you'll forever be blaming other people. Don't be bothered by what others think who you are or the standards they set. Take responsibility for your life.

5. Learn to let go and Trust yourself. - To be happy means learning to let go of expectations from your self or from other people. You can't always have your way. At work, you can't always be sure your strategies will work or your plans will happen. But before you let go, have a deeper trust in yourself.
6. Learn to receive blessings. - Think of the little things that make you happy or the people that give you assurance where you're good at. This is called receiving. Most of us have reasons to be happy, only that we don't see them or we take them for granted. We need to have little eyes and little hearts too, and realize that all things that make us happy have been there all along.

7. Have somebody to turn to. - Even if you're in turmoil, there are people who will support you. But often we stick with people who make us unhappy. If you're unhappy, seek people who will nurture you or look for a partner who will serve as a well or spring of inspiration.

8. Be hopeful. - Hoping is better than being optimistic since it's whole and real. - Because sometimes, one optimism can be denial of hardship. Its easy to be optimistic about things, but inside you, you're anxious about them. Hoping is deeper. Its something you look forward to even when you recognize the difficulties and pains. The more hopeful a person is, the more he recognizes how bad the situation is, and lets himself to bear it. In the end, he knows it will bear results. You don't deny difficulties. You're touching ground instead.

9. Keep the faith Alive. - There'll be points in your life when you can't handle problems alone. Think about someone who's more powerful, and who loves you dearly to take care of you. Having faith in God will give you hope..

10. Share yourself. - You can actually give intangible gifts even without your conscious effort. - People will tell you later that you've helped them, and gradually, you will help others, they will affirm you by saying, You're Good. Then you realize that you're good person and your goodness is not merely based on meeting deadlines or getting a raise. It's more of proving your self-worth based on being loved for who you really are and not simply for the result you can deliver of the money you can contribute towards difficulties in life.

11. Be grateful. - You have to develop in yourself the sense of gratitude. You should be thankful for what you have. But you should recognize that there are things you can do to improve your life.

12. It's all in the mind. - We are unhappy because we think we are. Unhappy people are attached to their unhappiness. They refuse to change. When one thinks negatively, then he attracts negative thoughts. If you think that a tragedy will fall on you, somehow you fulfill it. Unconsciously, you make it happen.

13. Money isn't everything. - People accumulate more and more money, but the moment of happiness they can buy gets smaller and smaller. Although more money may bring greater feeling of empowerment, studies show that personal relationship, spirituality and feelings about oneself most directly influence a well-being.

14. Discover the best friend in you. - We can all change for the better. You can be happy even with yourself by discovering the best friend in you. Get real. Don't be hard on yourself with those high, unattainable goals. It's time you don't look for happiness outside your domain.


 Emailed by Rui Pinto

Now, let's define Happiness:

"Happiness is like peeing in your pants, everyone can see it, but only you can feel the warmth." -Urban Dictionary

















18 comments:

  1. 1. Ito talaga I can testify to this one. Once I was in pain and sabi nila I have to feel it para walang gap ang pag move on. Mahirap explain. Yung tipong dapat hayaan mo lang ang sakit hanggang siya mismo ang sumuko sayo. (hmmm hamunin ang sakit bwahahaha).

    2. Nod.Nod.Nod. Ito yung time na sumuko na si pain sayo. hahaha.

    3. Sabi nga nila, you have to see things in different perspective. Hiwalay sa pain so that you can forgive others and eventually to forgive yourself.

    4. Siguro sa simula it's natural to blame others specially when the pain is raw pero pag tumagal ka na, tapos sinisisis mo pa yung iba, yun ang masarap batukan para magising sa katotohanang, "hello buhay mo yan, kaya bangon na at magsaya".

    5. Paano nga ba mag-let go? nyahahaha.

    6. Tama. Kasi kung san san pa natingin eh, di tuloy nakikita ang nasa paligid.

    7. Be it a friends, a new friend, a family member, hindi tayo mauubusan niyan.

    8. Thi sis the best at nalaman kong mas better pala ang hope. I should be more hopeful than optimistic pala.

    9.Tell your problem that you have a BIG GOD.

    10. Kahit simpleng pakikinig lang sa isang taong may problema okay na yun. Wala ka pang sinasabi nakatulong ka na sa simpleng pkikinig sa taong gustong maglabas ng sama ng loob.

    11. Yes, dapat palaging kasama sa prayers ang pagpapasalamat.

    12. The Secret to. Parang Law of Attraction.

    13. TAMA at MALAKING CHECK.

    14. And happiness can start from within.

    Happiness. Paano nga ba? Yung tulad nung Sunday, parang super saya ko nun hindi ko namalayan ang oras, nangalay ang panga ka kakatawa at masaya akong umuwi. Thanks Ulit.

    P.S. Kalamay ba yung sa picture o tikoy? Or sapin-sapin?

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  2. @ Sey, Ang galing naman ng pag analisa mo sa bawat items! Naka relate ka masyado sa pain, may pinagdaanan ba? The best barometer ng happiness ang hardship. Bilib ako sa mga taong may mahirap na kalagayan pero ang nakakahawa ang saya!

    Oo nga, ang saya nong sunday, kala ko nga di ka nagtatagalog eh hahaha

    Sapin-sapin yong nasa picture. Natuwa akong kunan kasi mukhang smiley hehe

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  3. hay mar.. Naku humataw na naman si twin sis (sey) sa comment.. hehe..Napaisip din tuloy ako na sana nga may panukat ng happiness..

    I love the 14 wAYS TO BE HAPPY. I'll try remember lahat. :)

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  4. Hi mayen, di ko alam na may twin sis pala si sey, hehe so, identical kayo?

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  5. do i need to comment pa ba nasabi na ata lahat ni sey ang dapat sabihin eh.. well siguro para sa akin happiness is a choose di ba?
    may mga bagay sa atin na dapat mas magtuunan natin ang pansin ang mga bagay bagay na masaya kaysa sa malungkot.


    parang sa bata lang bigyan mo lang ng nagpapasa saya sa kanya 100 percet happy na yun.

    sabi nga nila sometime u need to be child to feel the real happiness!

    Thanks for the sunday experience of happiness!

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  6. @axl, thank u din, di mo pa ba nabalitaan yong pa kontest ko? Haha, ask sey!

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  7. Ay, di ako maka-relate sa Sunday happiness pero sa 14 na nakalista dito, agree, isang malaking tsek (gaya nga ng sabI ni Sey). Anong contest meron, share naman... hehe.

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  8. @tpw, absent ka nong sunday kasi hehe... Mag backread ka ng comment thread sa entry ko ng bagsik ng panitik, malalaman mo yong pa contest ko hahaha....

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  9. @Mar hmmm yes, experience is the best teacher. Si pain kaya ang sumuko sakin. Sabi niya sawa na daw siya sakin kasi talagang warm welcome siya kaya ayun nilayasan na ako. hehehe. Si Mayen nga pala yung twin sis kong nabasa mo sa twitter. hehehe

    @twin sis, hello.

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  10. @Sey, ah ok, sya pala yon, Hi Mayen! Ako nga pala si Super Mario and my brother din ako si Luigi haha

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  11. Ah, yun pala yun! Ang hirap naman pumili ng susuportahan... Sey, Balut, Gracie, Axl. Hmmm, kung sino manalo sa kanila, share ng premyo ha. Hehe...

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  12. Alam mo yung #1 nabasa ko yan e sa isang blog entry ni.. di ko lang maalala basta it was about "distraction". isang taong naputulan ng paa, araw-araw ramdam nya ang sakit. oras-oras di tumitigil ang matinding karamdaman. hangga't isang araw yata nun may isang aso na napamahal sa kanya, bawat pagwagay way ng kanyang buntot, ang pagtaas ng kanyang paa para kalabitin sya, at ang tila pagtahol bilang komunikasyon sa kanya, isa itong distraction na maituturing dahil sa mga oras na ito nalilimutan nya ang malubhang sitwasyon, ang matinding sakit na nararamdaman bagkus ay puno ng pagmamahal at galak ang nadarama nya para sa bago nyang karamay at kaibigan. gandang gabi mayong!

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  13. Hi Ms Gracie, Good Morning! San ka man naroroon hehe... ang gandang kwento naman nyan, alalahanin mo kung saan mo nabasa para mabasa ko rin hahaha... demanding lang

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  14. and most of all, don't forget about God

    true happiness come from him

    :))

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  15. agree ako dyan TR... isang malaking Amen! for that...

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  16. 12. It's all in the mind. - hmm actually hindi rin naman lagi. minsan nasa body? hahaha!

    Binalikan ko kung anong kinalaman ng picture sa post na to, and then I saw it! SMILE! :)

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    1. Hahaha! Nasa body? Kiliti ba yang tinutukoy mo? hahaha

      Basta talaga food, di mo palalagpasin eh no? hahaha yes! Big Smile!

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